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Chapter One: Understanding
the Intratwin Relationship
The Six Subgroups of Twinning
–Twin Subgroups: How Different Are They?
The Twin Bond
–In the Beginning
–Are Your Twins Telepathic?
Nature Versus Nurture: The Big Debate
–The Impact of Shared and Nonshared Environments
The Twin Advantage: The Real Story
–Multiples as Adults
Chapter Two: Developing Identity
and Promoting Individuality
Identity Challenges for Twins and Multiples
–Twin Subgroups: Do They Develop Their Identity Differently?
–Don’t Overlook the Dual Identity
–Should You Worry?
Promoting Individuality
–Making it Easy for Outsiders
–Identical Dress and Older Twins
Multiples and Friendships
–Twins Share Friends
–The Shared Best Friend
–When One Has Trouble Making Friends
–My Cotwin, My Friend
When One Twin Dominates the Other
Providing Privacy
–Why Is Privacy Important?
–The Parent Trap
Chapter Three: Double Discipline
Managing Multiple Children
–Toy Tantrums
–Fostering Cooperation in Young Multiples
–Intratwin Bickering—Should You Step In?
Tween and Teen Multiples: Are They Harder to Discipline?
–Twin Type Discipline Challenges
Chapter Four: Multiples and Education
Kindergarten Readiness
–How Can You Tell if They’re Ready?
–When One Twin is Ready for Kindergarten While the Other is Not
–Speech: How Language Acquisition Affects Learning
Separate or Together?
–The Twin Bond and Socialization
–Does Classroom Separation Encourage Individuality?
–Is it Better to Separate Sooner Rather Than Later?
–Making the Decision
–Seeing it From Both Sides
–If Separation is on the Horizon
–Reassess Placement Yearly
–Being an Advocate for Your Multiples
When Multiples Differ in Ability
–Should You Let One Multiple Skip a Grade?
–Should You Hold One Struggling Twin Back?
–Special Considerations for Opposite-Sex Twins
Learning Difficulties
–Do Boys and Girls Learn Differently?
–Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder
Chapter Five: Combatting Competition and
Promoting Cooperation
What is Sibling Rivalry?
–Making Comparisons—the Beginning of Sibling Rivalry
–When Multiples Turn Comparisons to Each Other
The Positive Side to Competitiveness
–The Great Debaters
–Academic Decathlon
Chapter Six: Rethinking Fairness
and Fighting Favoritism
I Just Want to Be Fair
–Why We Do It and Why We Need to Stop
Understanding Favoritism
–How Does It Begin?
–The Consequences of Favoritism
–Favoritism and Adolescence
Chapter Seven: When They Reach
Puberty—Multiples as Teenagers
The Advantages of Being a Teenage Multiple
–We’re in This Together
–The Popularity Factor
The Challenges of Being a Teenage Multiple
–Emerging Independence and Developing Autonomy
–The Big Separation
–Comparisons Often Escalate
–Self Esteem
–Challenges for Parents
–Twin Coupling: Two to the End
The Twin Body
–Differences in Growth
Chapter Eight: Family Relationships—Mom, Dad,
and the Single-Born Siblings
Family Dynamics 101
–Multiples and Birth Order
The Siblings
–The Older Sibling
–The Younger Sibling
The Parents
–A Different Bonding Experience
–Fighting Feelings of Isolation
–The Identity Quest
–How Twins Affect a Marriage
Bibliography
Index
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